Therapy for attachment wounds and toxic relationships.
Telehealth therapy in WA state
From anxious & people pleasing to secure and receiving.
You’ve been overly accommodating and people pleasing in relationships to feel “secure”. You’ve been your true self and playing small because it feels safer. You feel if the world saw the true you, you’d be judged, rejected, or abandoned.
You overthink interactions with others, and it keeps your up at night. You’re googling answers to life’s complex relational issues. You might be co-dependent, maybe had an emotionally immature parent, or a narcissistic partner. You want answers because you’re curious, but you also desperately want to “figure it out”. You’ve learned that solutions start with you, but unfortunately, a google search cannot “see” you and your pain.
You have relationships, friends, maybe a partner, but you still feel lonely and empty. When something good happens, you even question whether you deserve it. It’s exhausting. It feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. You’re terrified if you were the real you in your relationships, they’d leave. Behind your brave face there’s sadness, loneliness, and fear. You deserve to heal from this way of living.
You deserve to take up space!
It didn’t start with you, but healing can.
Family relationships are some of the most important relationships that impact the rest of our lives. Understanding and healing attachment needs are a powerful way to challenge your negative belief and thought patterns. Understanding your family of origin help you heal that parts of you that were not seen or accepted. My goal is to help you find, trust, love and honor yourself. I blend solution focused strategies for the “today years old” context and problems with process based approaches to understand and heal old wounds and stuck patterns. I also use an attachment based focus to uncover the deeper meaning to the stressors coming up today. I’ll hold your story with curiosity, compassion and safety as we take a deep dive into understanding your deepest potential.
What we’ll work on
Holding space for big emotions
Understanding the impact of attachment wounds, emotional immaturity, emotional abuse, co-dependency, and narcissistic abuse
Helping you heal from lost nurturance, protection and guidance
Challenging and heal negative beliefs
Learning new ways of being in relationships including how to set boundaries, build trust and communicate
Establishing new beliefs including self-love, security and a sense of belonging
Recover from being small and accommodating.
Reclaim your space!
FAQS
Common questions about therapy:
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Attachment-focused therapy is rooted in attachment theory that aims to address the impact of early attachment experiences on an individual's emotional well-being and relationships. The client and therapist collaboratively explore the client’s attachment history, identify patterns and dynamics, and heal attachment wounds. The therapy focuses on creating a safe and supportive environment where clients can develop self-awareness, regulate emotions, and cultivate healthy interpersonal connections. Through validation, exploration, and corrective emotional experiences, the goal is to foster secure attachment styles characterized by trust, intimacy, and mutual support. By addressing attachment-related challenges, the therapy aims to enhance relational functioning and promote healthier patterns of relating and connecting with others.
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Emotional abuse is complex and pertains to a pattern of behaviors aimed at undermining, manipulating, or controlling another person's emotions, self-worth, and overall well-being. It involves a range of non-physical tactics that can occur in various relationships, such as romantic partnerships, familial connections, or even workplace environments.
At its core, emotional abuse seeks to inflict psychological harm by exploiting vulnerabilities and exerting power over an individual. This form of abuse often relies on tactics like humiliation, constant criticism, belittlement, and demeaning language. The abuser may employ gaslighting techniques, distorting the victim's perception of reality and making them doubt their own sanity or judgment. They may also isolate the person from their support networks, manipulate their emotions to maintain control, or employ guilt, threats, or intimidation to assert dominance.
Survivors of emotional abuse may experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and a distorted sense of self. They may struggle with trust, have difficulty forming healthy relationships, and exhibit symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The effects can extend beyond the immediate relationship, permeating various aspects of the person's life and hindering their ability to thrive and achieve their full potential.
Recognizing emotional abuse is crucial for intervention and support. Healing from emotional abuse involves processing trauma, rebuilding self-esteem, and developing healthy coping mechanisms.
You can learn more about emotional abuse and find resources here.